“Walking with a purpose.” That’s how I describe myself whenever someone remarks on how fast I walk — breezing by even if I don’t have anywhere to be. As I walk, a thousand things flash into my mind: future meetings, dance team practices, upcoming programs and classes. Despite my constant need for haste, however, I somehow manage to latch on to the little details in my surroundings: I notice the lady who waits at the Chemistry bus stop every morning, the color of certain buildings and the way in which the employees at the dining halls interact with one another. I notice many minute details like these, and it was by chance the other day that I stumbled upon three little ducks that, in a way, have taught me so much about my own University experience.
The construction projects at the University are infinite, so it should have come as no surprise to me when one of them blocked off Ruffner Bridge for Curry School construction. Since I live in McCormick, to get to Central Grounds I now have to go down the steps on Bonnycastle, past the tennis courts and cross the street from the Dell to the stairs leading up to Newcomb.
Each time I pass, I notice the two little ducks swimming around in the Dell. They do everything together: they swim together, eat together and sleep together. I’m not sure when I noticed the new one, but I remember that suddenly one day there were three little ducks swimming in the Dell. The new duck looked different than the other two, and as I quickly passed by the Dell on my way to class each day, and in typical “me” fashion, I began to observe its interactions intently.
Almost every day, I watched as this third duck tried to assimilate itself into the routine of the other two ducks. It followed them around in vain, trying its best to befriend the other two. Most of its attempts were unwelcome and greeted by attacks; ultimately, the new duck gave up, spending its time in isolation. Thinking about these ducks has made me realize several things.
First, had I not paid attention to my surroundings, I never would have been exposed to the little world right beside me as I walked to class each day. It made me wonder how many other little things I had missed with the people I know at school or even the people that I don’t. Is someone out there who’s been in an uncomfortable situation that I could have potentially helped avoid? Probably. If anything, seeing these ducks has prompted me to be keenly aware of what is going on around me.
You never know when someone will need your help, so pay attention to your surroundings, and don’t be a bystander. The second thing these ducks reminded me of was how awful it is to feel like you don’t belong. I think we’ve all felt it at one point, and as a member of Resident Staff, I know that finding your niche here at the University is a constant worry. Some students find this niche right away, but others have a little more difficulty. Don’t turn away the opportunity to help someone find their place at the University, and don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you haven’t already found it. Building boundaries will only limit your University experience. Make your experience an inclusive one, and it will be all the sweeter.
Lastly, and I think more importantly, know that it is never too late in your college career to make new friends. I’ve made several good friends in my last year here at this University, and it has only enhanced my experience and added to the wonderful memories I have of this place. Be open to new experiences and friendships, and you will be as content as those three little ducks could have been.
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